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Sar x's avatar

This hits deep—thank you for articulating something many of us feel but rarely say out loud. There's something both isolating and empowering about being perceived as the “wrong kind” of presence in public space. The slow, uncomfortable realisation that your existence—your style, your energy, your very face—is too much for some people, and the way that turns into quiet rejection... it wears on you. And yet, there’s a kind of twisted relief in no longer being watched or approached like a curiosity. The loneliness becomes armor. The villain origin story writes itself.

But maybe what’s villainous is just visibility without apology. The quiet rebellion of not softening yourself for the comfort of strangers. If that makes people clutch their kids tighter or give you a wide berth, so be it. Maybe it means you’re not failing at humanity—you’re just too real for the social script.

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Kairo's avatar

By simply being yourself, you attract the people who genuinely want to be with you – quality over quantity. Stay true to yourself; there’s no reason to feel misunderstood as long as you understand yourself. This is a common lack among many people: a deep understanding of their true selves. That’s why it’s easier for them to judge or distance themselves from those who might intimidate them with their settled character. Congratulations on choosing your own (or your own set of) paths.

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